Homesick as an au pair - What should I do?

It's not uncommon for au pairs to sometimes feel homesick. When you're far away from home for a longer time it's easy to miss your familiar life and loved ones in your home country. But feeling homesick doesn't have to be a big crisis when you know how to handle it.

How au pairs can handle homesickness and thrive being an au pair brings exciting experiences: a new culture, country, family, friends, and language. But it can also feel overwhelming, especially at the start of your stay, often accompanied by homesickness. Remember, the challenges of this new environment are what help you grow. These experiences are why you chose to become an au pair. This special chapter in your life is temporary, so enjoy every moment while it lasts!

Tips for managing homesickness as an au pair:

• Stick to a daily routine: A regular schedule helps balance work and free time, allowing you to relax and plan fun activities.
• Make new friends: Meet some au pairs, especially those from your home country, to share your experiences and feel understood.
• Build a trusting relationship with your host family: Open communication with your host parents can provide support and help you navigate challenges and solve problems.
• Limit calls home: Avoid calling home too often when homesick. Instead, explore your surroundings, visit new places, or connect with locals to distract yourself.
• Create your space: Personalize your rooms with pictures, postcards, or a map marking your adventures. This makes your space feel like home.

Host family tips for helping an au pair with homesickness

• Develop a personal relationship with your au pair

• Build a Personal Relationship: Involve your au pair in family life and talk with the au pair and treat them like a family member during their stay.
• Communicate Openly: Show interest in their well-being. Regularly ask how they’re feeling and offer support when needed.
• Help Them Connect: Introduce your au pair to other local au pairs, especially those who speak their native language and help with the organisation of a language course.
• Explore the Region Together: Show them around the area and assist with organizing a language course. Encourage them to explore on their own and pursue hobbies.
• Provide a Clear Schedule: A structured weekly plan helps your au pair manage their free time and work responsibilities. Knowing their schedule can ease the stress of handling kids.
• Offer Time Off: Ensure they have regular two- to three-day breaks to plan trips with friends. A strong internet connection also helps them stay in touch with family.