Solving problems during the au pair stay

(Also to be found with keywords Au pair stay problems, Problems, Conflicts and Difficulties)

Conflicts may arise in any situation in life, including during an au pair stay. A key aspect of successful conflict resolution is good communication and speaking directly with one another about problems as soon as they come up. 

Particularly throughout the first few weeks of the au pair stay, both au pair and host family should try to be tolerant and flexible with their new situation. Host families should not expect their au pairs to perfectly manage their tasks right from the start. They need to be ready to answer questions from their new au pairs and also take into account that she or he may be having difficulties with the language. Bear in mind that it is quite a challenge for au pairs to express their thoughts and ideas in a foreign language.

Au pairs may often feel homesick at the beginning of an au pair stay. Homesickness, however, usually only lasts a few days until the au pairs starts to get used to the new enviroment and schedule. As soon as au pairs start to meet new people in the host country, their feelings of homesickness diminish.

Our tips for tricky situations will help you solve other potential au pair stay problems. In short, most day-to-day problems can easily be resolved by simply talking to each other. Be frank, tolerant and honest. Explain how you see the situation from an objective point of view and try to find a compromise together.

Still, sometimes things just do not work out between au pairs and host families. If you consider that you can no longer come to an agreement, you may think of terminating your mutual contract and changing au pairs or host families.

Remember that you can always contact us, should you have any questions or problem.

Related topics:

Your rights as an au pair
Changing au pairs - what now?
How do I change host families?